Avoid Mommy Burn Out
About 6 months ago I sent my husband the text. I was home with the kids all week while he was working his tail off for us about 300 miles away. Being at home with the kids is such a blessing because I know that they are well taken care of, and my husband doesn’t have to worry about the kids at all while he’s working. I understand this. I try to stay grateful that I have this opportunity, but after 75 diaper changes, 15 episodes of Paw Patrol, and two toddler meltdowns over the course of 5 days, it is hard.
I love being a mom, but it was never my dream as a child. Sure, I played house, and loved my baby dolls. My dreams always included a successful career. I knew I would have kids… that was the plan, but it wasn’t a priority. I think this has been the hardest part of motherhood for me. My career had fallen by the wayside. Oh how I missed it. I missed the adult conversation and interaction. I missed the atmosphere where I could work, and focus without a million and one interruptions. On top of all of that, I had no income to call my own. I am married, and my husband pays all of the bills… and I hate it.
I have realized that part of my happiness and my sense of accomplishment comes from earning my way. All of my adult life so far, I never depended on anyone but myself. My work at home is important. This is my hubby’s argument, and I know he’s right. The catch 22 is that I want a career, but I would absolutely lose it if I had to put the kids in daycare. So, what’s a mom to do?
For my sanity, I needed something for myself. Something besides homemaking, and taking care of the kiddos. Now, I could take up a hobby… knitting perhaps? I would never be satisfied with knitting or scrap booking or the like. I love crafts, but I needed more. I had to listen to my entrepreneurial heart, so I sent my husband the text.
“I bought a website, and I’m starting a blog.”
I wasn’t even sure what I meant by that. Ha! I bought a freaking website!? I did it, and then thought I was crazy. Blogging had been in the back of my mind for a while. Do you ever think about blogging? If you are reading this thinking that blogging could be for you, but you don’t know where to start… I am here to help!
Blogging can be such an awesome creative outlet. You can decide what to blog about! Do you like crafts? Fashion? Food? All of the above? Blog about it! You have your very own flare that you add to whatever it is that you are passionate about, and the world needs it!
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I was hesitant at first, but the one thing that gave me the confidence to go for it was an ebook by blogger Abby Lawson called Building a Framework. I got the whole package with video tutorials, and membership to an exclusive Facebook group (helpful for asking questions.) I followed her steps in the book, and continue to learn from it as I go on my blogging adventure. There are screen shots and everything! If you are a complete newbie thinking that you can barely work Facebook, please don’t be discouraged. I can’t recommend her book enough… it practically holds your hand through the whole process of getting set up (and beyond). You can do it.
I had a terrible case of mommy burn out, but I am so much happier now that I have my blog. It is mine. Having something that is your very own can be everything that you need. The kids can’t get into it… the baby can’t drool on it. Haha, it is the best!
Your blog can even be a way to earn money, and stay home with your children. That was part of the appeal when I started my blog. It has helped me feel like I’m contributing more to my family. (Not contributing financially was a big reason for my mommy burnout.) I won’t go into the income part here because I don’t want to keep rambling on. I will need a whole new post! (Abby does income reports on her site if you need inspiration.)
Go out there. Find something that can be just for you mama. Mine is blogging, but really… it can be whatever your heart desires. Blogging is just great for us moms because we usually don’t get a lot of adult interaction… and this can be it! You can combine your passion with a website, and help people along the way. Find your thing! Banish mommy burn out once and for all!
If I can blog, you can blog. Start here, and let me know when you do. I would absolutely love to check out your site. Go for it!
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